Are you struggling to sustain your solo sex life without your favorite visual aids? Looking for tips to help boost your lover’s sexual skills? How do you keep the “casual” in your casual sex relationship?
What makes you feel sexually confident?”
All month long, Emily has posed this question. And all month long, I have avoided attempting to answer it myself. The truth is, confidence is something I have always struggled with. Maybe not in all departments; I know what I bring to the table when it comes to my sense of humor. I am confident in my ability to carry on an intelligent conversation, even in front of a group of people. And I know for a fact that I can whip up a grilled cheese sandwich that would make you melt. The second I hit the bedroom, however, all that aplomb disappears. The self-assuredness I exude in my daily life dissipates somewhere in between dinner conversation and dirty talk, like spinach withering in a saute pan… Like it was never there at all.
That’s the thing about confidence, I guess. Practice makes perfect. While my 20 years of schooling gave me plenty of practice with social and academic confidence, when it comes to things between the sheets, well… guess I must have slept through that particular course. And I’m not the only one. Continue Reading
On this throwback podcast from 2015, Emily and Menace are joined by comedian BFF’s, Jake and Amir. They provide different male perspectives on a variety of topics, from sex toys to stamina to sexting like a pro, and even assist Emily in answering some listener emails.
Recently I have been dealing with an issue that I can’t seem to wrap my head around: I’m in love with a man who is absolutely awful at performing oral sex. He doesn’t go down on me very often, but when he does it’s sloppy and rough and all over the place – I mean, really terrible! I just don’t get it… He is a great kisser and is so good with his hands, but when it comes to oral sex, he seems to be completely clueless.
I don’t want to mess up what we have because everything else in the sex department is great, but I NEED more oral sex. How can I help him get better at going down? How can I get him to go down me, period?
When the mood strikes, it can be tempting to get down and dirty just about anywhere, but not so fast! In today’s show, Emily and Menace reveal why you might want to think twice about where you want to get frisky, and address some of your additional transitional trepidations. Continue Reading
I began having sex at a relatively young age. I was 15 when my boyfriend and I decided we were going to lose our virginities to each other. Well, more like his friends asked when we were finally going to get it over with. Although it may not have come up for a few months if it was never brought to our attention, I was sure (at the time) that this was who I wanted to go through this life event with. Needless to say, that relationship lasted for maybe one more month before it was over.
From that point on, whenever I’d have sex with someone, it would be on their terms and not my own. All I wanted to do was please, because if he was having a good time, so was I… Or at least, I THOUGHT I was. I wasn’t even aware that my own sexual experience was being put on the back burner. I was young, I had no idea what an orgasm felt like, and the guys I was seeing only had their climax in mind. Continue Reading
From a velcro wall to your bedroom, it’s no secret that Sportsheets has taken the sex world by storm. In today’s show, Emily and Menace are joined by CEO and founder of Sportsheets, Tom Stewart. With Tom as their guide, they unpack the evolution of the revolutionary bondage brand, in addition to providing you with you ample advice to satisfy all your carnal curiosities! Continue Reading
After listening to your show regularly, I decided that it’s time for me to find my G-spot! Based on your suggestions, I have been trying to pay attention to my body during sex, and I noticed that the spot that feels really good each time my boyfriend thrusts in and out is actually located on the BACK wall of my vagina. I know you always say that the G-spot is located on the FRONT wall, so what am I feeling? Could my G-spot be in the wrong (or a different) place?
Loyal Listener Lauren
Ever wonder how the experts improve their own sex lives? In today’s show, Emily and Menace check in with Emily’s Somatica coaches Celeste & Danielle to reflect on her experiences with somatic sex therapy so far. Then it’s on to your emails! Continue Reading
Having a threesome is one of the top fantasies for men and women. And it never fails to be one of the most popular topics on the Sex With Emily site. Whenever we do a podcast, blog, or even a whisper about threesomes, everyone perks up a little bit… It’s an exciting topic, and one that we all want to learn a little more about…
Well, here’s a treat for you: a peek into the part of the threesome triad that is often shrouded in mystery: The Unicorn. Continue Reading